One of our zesty chics wrote in with a topic idea and it's a great one. She called it pillow talk—complimenting each other, expressing to your man what you're going to do, how you're feeling, and how good he's making you feel.
For many, this kind of zesty talk enhances their intimate times and can be capitalized on. It can start as foreplay before you're anywhere close to the bedroom—a text or email with a code phrase or two, whispering over the phone what you're going to do later (Yes, whisper. Some phones let bystanders hear both sides of the conversation!), drop a hint at supper—as clearly as you can if there's kids at the table with you. This not only starts his engine, but it starts yours too.
Then, when the real zest begins, you can paint a picture with words of what you're going to do, or even doing at that moment. This is definitely one of those times when being colorful is good and it's also a good time to let the words flow. It's like comparing colorful pillows to plain white pillows. Sure, those white pillows may have crisp, bright white cases, but white is white, and if you're wanting fun color, they just won't do. Go for word pictures in full color.
Another idea along these same lines is to
ask him what he'd like you to do. Be like a waitress telling him about the specials of the day and let him choose--or watch his eyes and use that to decide what you'll do. Be sure to be a good waitress and
really tell him about the day's specials, don't just zip through a memorized list, pop a bubble like a waitress in a diner and ask “So, what'll it be?” Unless... No, we'll save that for another post. =)
Remember, you aren't in the doctor's office so you don't need to use the correct words for your anatomy. If there are other words you use for body parts, use them! But you also want to be careful of the terms you use. As Christians, Christ is in our lives. Yes, we want to enjoy and celebrate all He's given us,
fully enjoy and celebrate, but we don't want to do or say anything that will offend Him. This is something you and your husband will have to work out together and if that means you limit your vocabulary to the doctor's office standard—do it.
Colorful, zesty times with your man lead to sweet dreams for both of you.
And a big thank you to you (LoL--you know who you are *g*) for your topic idea and questions! =)
Posts
Mari is a middle-aged woman who thrives on her husband’s love, mixed with generous portions of good chocolate and daily lattes. She serves beside her husband as they pastor a small church in the mountain community nestled among the Cascade foothills in Washington.
