Have you read Song of Solomon lately? I've read it many times and I knew it was steamy, but this time through I really saw it. Who-ey! That Shulamith girl was HOT. Steam billowed from her with every turn of the page. She knew a good thing when she saw it and she didn't stop there with just knowing—she kept hitting the replay button. She let her mind linger on just how wonderful her man was—inside and out, but especially outwardly.
Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. ~Philippians 4:8 (NAS)
THIS is what Shulamith did. She thought on what was true and honorable and right, not to mention what was lovely. Her husband's body was beautiful to her and she camped out there, right on that point. And God put it in the Bible! Steam and all.
That girl enjoyed sex.
No, I don't think that's true.
She loooooved making love with her husband! So how did she get so lucky while some of us seemed to miss out on that gift? Was it luck? No. Some of it was her mind.
So many times we're content to remember and think about the inner attributes of our man—and those things are so very important, and that helps us keep our attitude good toward him, but we need to take it a step further. We need to let ourselves think about his body, every inch of his body. Shulamith sure did! (Check out Song of Solomon 5:10-16)
His body is like polished ivory decorated with sapphires.
~Song of Solomon 5:14 (NIV)
Girls, our English translation doesn't do this verse justice. Here's what the book Intimate Allies says:
Most English translations hesitate in this verse. The Hebrew is quite erotic, and most translators cannot bring themselves to bring out the obvious meaning. The smooth and expensively ornamented tusk of ivory is a loving description of her husband's penis.
Wowzers! Someone turn on the fan!
We're not to just think about his wonderful broad shoulders and hairy chest. We're given the example of a wife thinking about her husband's penis--emphasis here on her husband's! And as she lovingly thought about her husband's body, she became more physically excited.
She found herself getting more in the mood for loving!
Oh! Now there's something all of us can relate to! Getting in the mood for loving. And you know, what worked for Shulamith just might work for us.
One of our very own Zesty Chics said this: “Where the mind goes the body follows. It was a good thing for me to remember during the day. If I wanted my body to want to go "there" at night...I had better make sure my mind went there during the day. Fantasizing about my hubby...its a good thing! :) ”
Loving our husbands physically is honorable, right, pure and lovely. And what does the Bible say to do with those things? Think about them! Dwell on them! That way when your man comes home to you, you've built some anticipation within yourself and you have a head start, which is a very good thing! Sometimes that head start will enable you to feel and enjoy the loving more—physically, not just in your heart and mind. Thinking about how your body responds to your husband's also falls in the category of honorable, right, pure and lovely—let those thoughts and feelings run through your mind, too.
So go ahead girls, think about tickling that ivory, and keep hitting the replay button in your mind and see how that works for getting you in the mood for some love songs. ;-) And when the music begins, don't forget to pay attention to the good feelings. Pay close attention!
















14 Zesters spoke up:
O boy, I will never be able to hear the phrase, 'tickling the ivories' ever again without giggling. Great post and you're right. Building anticipation in your mind really does help but sometimes it backfires. Then where to put all that unused anticipation? It's really hard.
Great blog entry. Am glad I was up late to catch it.
"Emphasis here on her husband's" Patty, you're killing me!
Such great advice here. You know our husbands think about our ivories, we can learn a thing or two from their example!
Yes, if minds dwell on our husband's attributes throughout the day, it does tend to heat things up a bit. Tickle the ivories, carress the saphires...whatever works, ladies.
On a serious note, though, touches in general (on any part of his body) through out the day/evening are just a good sign of healthy love.
Tickle some ivories...ooo shiver me timbers.
Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus is a wonderful book written by two christian ladies. I would recommend it to everyone. I helped me read song of solomon in a whole new light and changed a lot of my feelings about sex.
Ladies, some of you may be thinking that you can't focus on your husband's physical attributes. Maybe he is not the man he once was but certainly there are still things about him that get you going. Maybe he has great eyes or amazing arms or his laugh drives you wild. Pick what works for you. Go with it. Or think about so part of his personality that makes you feel sexual. For me I love to hear about my husbands job. To hear about him taking charge in situations or how much he is needed to get everything done. Even hearing him talk about all the numbers and machines that make no sense to me just drives me crazy. I know it sounds strange but it works for me and I can guarantee that my husband doesn't care what thoughts got me into the bedroom he is just glad that I am there.
One thing that I would caution about thinking about it throughout the day....I am a planner. I would think about it throughout the day except at night when it didn't go just like I imagined (i.e. he didn't kiss the way I wanted or he wanted the lights off I wanted the lights on) I would get so frustrated and want to quite. So what I do instead of thinking about how I want it to be I think about one of the times that has already happened. Something that really blew my mind and very quickly my body starts to follow where my thoughts were. Just thought that might be helpful for other planners like me.
Oooooo-weeeee! I had no idea that it was that explicit!
But, yeah, we have to put our minds into it as well. We may think that we are doing our husbands some justice by physically being with them, but they know the difference.
smooches,
Larie
I read that or heard that when I heard LInda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus on a radio broadcast several years ago. I have not forgotten it.
I LOVED their book "Intimate Issues"... I read it probably 8 years ago and it changed my perspective in many ways about sex. I had spent 10 years either pregnant or nursing babies so I needed a change of perspective. It truly awakened me to a new place in my physical relationship with my husband.... which has only grown better with age, even through menopause!
Great post, Patty!
Oh so fun! Tickle the ivories...that's probably my new favorite phrase.
This is so true, though. Our minds are just as important when it comes to fulfilling sex lives as our bodies.
Love. this!
"Tickle the ivories." Sounds Irish. (winka)
Love your wisdom, even in the "touchy" subjects, Peej. :D
WOW!! I need that book. I never looked at Song of Solomon like that, just as a love song. Now I wish I could read it in Hebrew!!!
I do just that at times... and get all ready for it. But then my hubby is enjoying so much it ends too fast for me. And I am left frustrated and disappointed.
I wish I could read Song of Solomon in Hebrew, too! That sure would tell us a lot! :) I think I'd need TWO fans on though! LoL
What can I say?
peace~elaine
I'm reading Song of Solomon right now in my Bible reading (in The Message) - and YEAH - it's explicit! Good reminder!
Well, I am NOT a "Zesty lady" but the author of that photo used to describe "the husband's ornamented tusk of ivory" and I never thought my work (a keyboard in this case)would ever become that handy!!! Glad it was picked out among hundreds of pics and for such a noble purpose!!
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