FollOw the YellOw Brick ROad

Okay, girls, here we gO again. Back to thOse CheeriOs.

In Mari's ShOw n Tell pOst, she reminded us that we need to knOw how our body functions. That's one of the first step to take on the YellOw Brick ROad to Os. (Yes, I said Os and not Oz. YannO, as in the plural of O. *wink*) As we get to knOw our bodies, and how they work, and as we remember that God made us as we are for a purpose, it helps us relax and feel more. The best way to be a better lover to your husband is learning to really enjoy sex and learning how to have an orgasm.

SO, how does our body function? (DOn't worry, this wOn't be a long biology lesson! *grin*) God blessed women with a magic button called the clitoris, and that little button is a wonderful little gadget in our tool box. But not every clitoris is the same. Each has a personality all her Own.

First of all, depending on how yours is designed, when you're not fully aroused your clitoris might be just a bump buried in fOlds of skin and it's lOcated above the Opening of the vagina. Right above where the inner labia (lips) meet and form an upside-down V there's a fleshy knob right at the point. That's your clitoris. When you're aroused, the clitoris tends to get larger, making it easier to find. Your clitoris is like an iceberg--Only about a tenth of it is seen and the rest is nestled inside to spread pleasure throughout the entire region.

Here's a good way to get to knOw your clitoris and your body better: Arrange for a long, uninterrupted bubble bath. I just betcha that if you tell your husband why, he'll be more than willing to keep the kids away from your bathroom door and answer the phOne! If you like candles, light a few. Do whatever you think will help you relax the mOst.

While in the tub sOaking, think about your husband and how much you love each other. Be like Dorothy. Remember how she clicked the heels of her ruby slippers and said 'There's nO place like hOme'? That's what you're to do, too. Remember that there's nO place like hOme --the loving arms of your husband. Then, when you're ready, let your hands do some exploring. Concentrate on the areas where you nOticed sparks of flame before or that have sent up smOke signals at some point and experiment with different touches. When you get to your clitoris, here's a couple things to try:
~an indirect touch through your outer labia.
~direct touch with your fingers.

Whether touching indirectly or directly, try:
**gentle pressure
**soft, circular movement
**firmer pressure
**a little vibration with you hand

I like what Dr. Kevin Leman says in his book Sheet Music when people are concerned about masturbation. He says,
“Sometimes I hate that word, simply because of the connotations that have become associated with it. When husbands or wives stimulate themselves to climax to avoid intimacy with their spouse or to participate in pornography or something like that, they are, in my view, acting in a selfish and destructive manner. However, when a wife is learning to respond sexually to her husband so that the two of them can enjoy a deeper and richer sexual experience, she is working toward greater intimacy, not less—just like a husband who is trying to learn ejaculatory control or who is on a long business trip may occasionally use self-stimulation to strengthen his marriage rather than weaken it.

So yes—there are times when masturbation is wrong and addictive and should be avoided. There are other times when getting familiar with your body is an unselfish act as you train yourself to become a better lover for your spouse. You know if what you are doing is selfish and running away from your spouse, or if what you are doing is preparing you to draw closer to your spouse.”
~Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman, chapter 6.

Even thOugh the clitoris is a kind of magic button, that doesn't mean that it's instant like a light switch. It may take several times of touching yourself and exploring before you find your body's preferences and what feels good. That's Okay! This isn't a race. Remember thOse gourmet meals we talked about before? They require time and practice to get them just right, and that's how it is in the land of Os. You've got to follOw the yellOw brick rOad. The best things in life are not necessarily the easy things. Give it time. Keep trying and follOwing that rOad. Try variations and dOn't worry about the time it takes. This is a journey to Os