Sexpectations

Expectations. They're something we all have. Sometimes those expectations work in our favor and sometimes they come back and bite us. Sexpectations are no different. Well that's not entirely true. Sexpectation seem to have a bigger bite than normal expectations, often leaving worse wounds. If left untended, those wounds can fester and turn into gangrene, killing our marriages, or at least parts of them. So how can we deal with our sexpectations in a balanced and healthy way that benefits us and our husbands?

-->Confront your sexpectations head on.
If you don't already know them, figure out what you expect out of your husband during your intimate times.

-->Examine them.
Are they realistic? If you expect toe-curling, explosive orgasms with each encounter, they probably aren't realistic.

-->Communicate them.
Sometimes we need to let our husbands know verbally what we expect. Men aren't good mind readers. For that matter, neither are women.

-->Relinquish your sexpectations.
Yup. You heard me right. Be willing to let go of your sexpectations for awhile. By letting go of them, you free yourself up to enjoy and accept anything that you receive from your husband.

Due to all kinds of circumstances, many of us are in this place, or have been at some point, even if our marriages are solid and strong. Sometimes there are physical reasons for needing to relinquish our sexpectations, and other times there are extreme time limitations or travel requirements have separated us.

And if you're thinking that all these things apply to our husbands too, you are SO right! It's good to know what our husbands expect from us. Don't settle for guessing or reading his mind. He's a man, and who can figure out what they think? We may think we have an idea, but often our idea is only partially true...if we're even close. Ask him if there are things he expects, you might just be surprised.

Remember, we are only responsible for our own actions. Which means we may very well need to take these steps and even relinquish our sexpectations before our husbands even know we are.

Are there some sexpectations that are harder for you to let go of than others?