What the Dentist Taught Me About Intimacy

My experience with dentists is far and wide.

I've been to dentists across the globe, from Thailand to Tampa, and suffice it to say that I've learned a thing or two. Oddly enough, the lessons I've learned as a result of having teeth are applicable to our sexuality as well.

Let me share the lessons and the laughs!

1. Some dentists will sense your trust in them and use it to make and then fill holes that were not there prior to your visit. Been there, done that. (And helped to make a few car payments on the Mercedes sitting out in the dentist's parking lot in the process.)

Likewise, a whole lot of people want to profit from our sexuality. I don't think this needs a whole lot of expounding. We are wise to recognize the harmful voices trying to capitalize on our sexuality.

2. Some dentists think they know what is in your best interest, say in having a hole filled, but upon drilling find they were mistaken. Been there, done that. This happened to me when a dentist in Thailand began drilling for a cavity only to say, "Oops, sorry! That wasn't a cavity."

Well it is now, thanks very much!

A whole lot of people are well intentioned in their attempts to help us in our sexuality, like that dentist. But when they get in there, they realize, "Oops, I just messed with something I had no business messing with."

3. If I find a dentist I know and trust, I'm sticking to that person like glue! And they better never retire!

I have a trusted dentist in the states who I know will not fill my teeth to pay off his student loans. Nor has he looked in a few mouths and thinks he knows it all. Through trustworthiness and experience, he has gained my loyalty.

When it comes to our sexuality, there are tricksters who are out to make a quick buck and move on; there are well-intentioned "oops" people; then there are those who point us to that which is trustworthy, reliable, and skillful.

God created sex and we can't get any better advice and instruction about our sexuality than from His word. Sadly, many Christians think of biblical sex as a list of do's and don'ts and stumble over this. It is so much more than that!

The reason why there are so many hedges around our sexuality in Scripture is because it is a sacred gift that is worthy of protection. This tells me that having a ho-hum sex life is living below the bar...AND that trying to fulfill the commands at face value are not going to get me above the bar.

Going to the trusted and skillful Creator for understanding into this thing called sexuality is where I will find the "treatment" I need. Furthermore, the best thing I can do for someone else is to point them to the Source. (I sure don't want to be an oops person!)

I hope soon to share more "treatment" from the Word. (These kids o' mine are keeping me pretty busy!) In the meantime, you can share too- dentist lessons or the other! :)