MANia Monday... for Men!

Welcome to our first ever MANia Monday, a new feature here at Adding Zest!! On Mondays we'll be writing to the men among us. Yes, we've had men lurking here at Zest and today we're welcoming them to come out of the shadows and join us. Marriage is a two way street and after months of hearing comments like "You need a site for men!" and "I wish my husband knew this!" we knew it was time to take the leap. So here it is. MANia Monday!

Just like He has every step of the way in the last year, God brought all the pieces together at just the right time, and He brought one of our MANia Monday writers, Stephanie, at the perfect time. Later this week I'll introduce you to her, but since today is Monday, here's for the men among us. So grab your husbands or send them a link and make them feel welcome. =]

And now, here's Stephanie with our first ever MANia Monday...

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Hi Guys! Stephanie here, I’m so very excited about MANia Mondays!

I wanted to contribute to this aspect of Zest because I truly believe great sex starts with the man. Yep, there you have it; I’ve thrown down the gauntlet. So if you’re not already mad at me, let’s get started.

Why does sex start with you? Wait, let me rephrase that… why does GREAT sex start with you? Because you have the ability to impact how your wife views sex.
~Is it a chore?
~Is it her marital obligation?
~Is it the absolute last thing on her mind?

Seriously, the list goes on and on, right? Right. Why? The reasons are vast. But the fact remains, that you can help to change some of that. Because as you know, how your wife views sex directly affects how gratifying your sex-life is.

Don’t hear me say that it’s as easy as 1, 2, 3. Do hear me say, with a little time, a little patience, a little effort and a lot of love you can help get her there.

As your first assignment, I want you to do me a favor. Look at your wife. That’s all. Spend time this week enjoying her features, taking in her movements. What do you notice about her? Watch her as she’s doing dishes, as she’s cooking, as she’s brushing her teeth. Look at her as she’s coming into the room, as she’s exiting. Look at her intently. Study her. What can you learn about this amazing woman just by looking at her? I realize this is going to be difficult – NOT! She’s altogether lovely, so enjoy this assignment.

So you are probably wondering what does this have to do with great sex beginning with you? Directly – Nothing. Indirectly – Everything. I don’t think most men spend any ‘real’ time just looking at their wives, enjoying her, studying her, understanding her body language. I think it’s fairly safe to say that men do A LOT of looking. Maybe you spend more time looking at other women, than your wife. Maybe the only time you look at your wife is when you want sex. Maybe you have forgotten how captivating she is. Or maybe, just maybe you’ve never looked long enough to realize she truly is captivating. So with that in mind, and since we have to start somewhere, let’s start there.