Men! Look!

Hi Guys!

Two weeks ago I asked you to look at your wife ~ to really, really see her, to see her true beauty. I hope that you took the assignment to heart and visually pursued your wife this week. If it has been some time since you looked at her in this way… What did you notice? Was there anything about her that you had forgotten? Were you reminded of what drew you to her in the first place? Now think about this, how does she carry herself ~ is she confident or timid? Maybe it depends on the situation she finds herself in. Does she feel important & special or does she feel invisible? Does she feel beautiful & desirable? These are all things that you can tell just by paying attention. If you can’t answer those questions, then keep watching her. You can figure it out, if it’s important to you. And, it should be. Because you have a huge impact on how she views herself. When she has a proper view of herself, through your eyes, then seeing herself rightly will fall into place more easily. For a lot of women this is HUGE. Unfortunately, women very often let the worlds standard of beauty dictate how they view themselves. So, do not underestimate the role you play in how your wife views herself. And, as she begins to break down those barriers that keep her feeling insignificant and unlovely she will be much more willing to take sexual risks, and to open herself up to you fully. It’s worth the effort guys!

Now, because I am not a fan of “all talk and no action” let’s get to the really good stuff! Think about her smile, her lips, her eyes, her breasts, her bottom, think about how beautiful she is. Describe her features to yourself. Use some vivid language and paint a picture of what you see. She is beautiful, and her body is amazing! With that in mind, you should begin to share with her how you feel about her body. Tell her about the things you have noticed, tell her how she makes you feel. And don’t wait until the bedroom door closes and she’s about to crawl into bed!! UGH. Women hate that. Tell her in the morning as she is getting dressed. Call her during the day and tell her you can’t stop thinking about her. (and don’t do it because I said so, do it because you really can’t stop thinking about her!!) Send her a love note via email or text. Pursue her before you get to the bedroom. Romance her. Make her feel desirable. Kiss her neck as she’s fixing dinner. Run your hands down her body. Let her experience the thrill of you enjoying her figure. As for you, enjoy the way she feels!

Now, since you’ve been looking at your lady, and taking in all of her beauty, the obvious next step is to tell her you want to make love to her in “this position” because you love to see “whatever feature” you are focused on today.

If your wife is currently a “lights off gal” please be respectful of her feelings, and don’t make her feel bad about it. Rather, gently and lovingly express to her your deep desire to SEE her. Let her know you truly do love her and you take pleasure in seeing her naked body. Sometimes, these things take time, and fortunately for you, you have the rest of your life to get there.