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The truth is that sometimes we women just aren’t in the mood. Sometimes, we’re too mood-y to be in the mood. Sometimes the children have pulled on and pawed us all day long, and the thought of one more touch is enough to send us hiding from our husbands because, “we have a headache.” We’ve all been there, and whatever excuse we tend to use, we know the truth – sometimes it really is just an excuse – simply because we either don’t want to or can’t “get in the mood”
As I’ve entered the brand new world of peri-menopause, I’m beginning to believe what I thought was another joke: that menopause puts the “pause in men”! I’m finding it harder to get “in the mood,” and find that thinking about initiating sex with my husband is something God is having to remind me to do, instead of it being my natural thought… much like He has to remind me to bake a casserole for a sick friend. I’ll be the first to pray and offer a word of encouragement, but the meal making… it never crosses my mind – unless the Lord puts it there. Unfortunately, now the love making is almost the same way.
One thing I’m learning to do to warm up to my husband, is to pray that God would help me “thrill to his touch”. God is all about us enjoying sex with our husbands – so praying that we’ll desire our men is right in line with God’s desires for us. When I see my sweet husband, or think of him, I simply say, “Lord, please help me to thrill to his touch and to love him in the way he needs to be loved.”I’m happy to report that praying this request has worked well, so far, for this slow cooking-pause-in-men kind of gal, and I'm guessing that the next time you're tempted to "have a headache", it just might work for you, too!
Blessings to you, from one Crockpot to another~
8 Zesters spoke up:
Jennifer, thanks for this reminder and for your sweet spirit. love you, friend!
I have done and do the exact same thing. While I'm not in menopause, I struggled badly from past sexual abuse for several years. It came out of no where and the very thought of sex made me want to throw up. I used to pray because I knew the rejection hurt my husband immensely. Years later, sometimes I still pray when not in the mood and it works. God honors our prayers when they are in line with what He wants for our marriages. We're supposed to be intimate.
And now, I just published my book on How I Forgave My Molester. It's been a long process but it was worth it! I'm so thankful for God's healing in this area because it could have been extremely damaging to our marriage and future!
Bless you sister for speaking out on a subject most would like to avoid.
Blessings,
Mel
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I've had to pray for the same thing; different words and reasons, but still the same. It does work. Thanks for sharing.
smooches,
Larie
UGH! I'm 25 and having this problem! I'm having my Dr check my progesterone levels because of it. I just have no interest in sex. I'll keep on praying for God to ignite my interest again though. He can heal me.
Mel~ Congratulations on the victory - and the published book!!! Thank you for sharing.
Thanks to all you girlfriends for sharing your thoughts and confirming the truth that prayer does work!
Much love~
Jennifer
Love you too, Heidi~ Thanks to you and Patty for this awesome blog and encouragement!
Jen
I can SOOOOO relate to this. Wonderful post. Thank you, Jennifer!
My! It seems we all need to pray for desire sometimes! I've been there, too, in the past as I healed from sexual abuse, and now as I'm in the early stages of menopause (this takes a while, doesn't it?). I love the prayer, "thrill to his touch." God honors our desire to fully enjoy something he has given us. Thanks for this post!
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