The Blue Bird of Happiness Plan

…Another recipe for "slow-cooking wives" to warm up to our "microwave men."

Almost 19 years ago, we were given this little glass blue bird as a wedding gift.

The tag hanging around its neck said to put it in the window so it would bring joy and happiness in our home. It was a sweet gift, but we didn’t have a window that it would sit in. We didn’t really know what to do with it, so eventually; the blue bird of happiness nested itself in a corner of a guest room drawer.

Back then, I was a “shy" bride, and just couldn’t bring myself to initiate sex with my husband. I think I was afraid of rejection – as in “What if he doesn’t want to tonight?? Would it be because he’s not attracted to me… after all, that’s all men think about, isn’t it?” My mind whirled out of control with unfounded fear of rejection. I quickly concluded that it was safer to let my husband do the initiating.

Besides, people weren’t talking openly about sex in those days, and in my deep-southern culture, if “proper ladies” did initiate sex with their husbands, they surely didn’t kiss and tell!  However, somewhere deep down inside, I knew that my husband needed to know that I wanted intimacy with him just as much as he wanted it with me. Only, I didn’t have the confidence to approach him in that way.

One day, God gave me an idea… He reminded me of that little glass bluebird tucked away in a drawer. I pulled it out, prayed through God’s inspired plan, and presented it to James that night. From then on, the Bluebird of Happiness had a purpose I’m sure it’s creators never dreamed.

The plan worked well for this shy bride, and eventually the bird wasn’t so necessary. However, it still sits on the back corner my nightstand, as a reminder of the happiness we experienced as we learned to unselfishly love each other early in our married life. I smile every time I see it. (In fact, I pulled it out not too long ago!) ;-)

The Blue Bird of Happiness Plan is simple. It would work with ANY object. It can be used by both husband and wife. If you’re having a hard time initiating sex with your husband, this might work for you. OR, if you find that your husband doesn’t give you enough time to mentally “warm up” to intimacy with him, he might want to use the Blue Bird of Happiness Plan on you.

Simply agree on an object you will use. Then, when either of you would like to have sex that day, set the object out somewhere in the house where it will be visible to the other. Since both of you now know that sometime during that day you’ll be enjoying intimacy, your slow-cooking Crock Pot mind can catch up with your microwave man.  And... your microwave man can have something to look forward to all day long!

We made a fun game out of where to set the bluebird. If I set it out and my husband saw it, he’d move it to let me know he got the message. I’d do the same when he would set it out for me.  We'd try to find a more creative spot each time we set out the bird.

To this day, our children are still asking about that bird – why we have it hidden on the night stand, and why sometimes its out in the house… We just smile and say that it brings us joy and happiness. One day, for a wedding gift, we just might let them in on the secret, and give them a Blue Bird of Happiness of their own. :-)

From one "Slow-Cooker" to another~
Jennifer
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