Skeleton Plan

Have you ever planned a vacation, or a special occasion, or a night out, for a very long time? You rehearsed it over and over in your mind, until it seemed larger than life. Then, when you finally got to do it, were you disappointed? The reality of a really good thing usually can't compare with the fantasy of the perfect thing.

I do that all the time, even in the bedroom. When date night comes around, I'll sometimes play the whole scenario in my mind, only to be let down when it doesn't go exactly as I'd imagined. Reality just can't keep up. For one, I'm not as bendy in real life.

Anticipation is good. Slipping a sexy note into my husband's pocket, or whispering a zesty invitation into his ear, mentally prepares us both. Too much of a good thing, though, can spoil it. There's a knack to this anticipation stuff.

We don't always plan lovemaking, of course. But when we do plan a special evening, it goes better if I don't let my husband in on all the details in my imagination. It works for him if I leave a little mystery. It also works better for me, if I don't go over it too much in my own mind.

I think of it as a skeleton plan. I get the basics in mind. Sharing a few of those ideas with my husband is exciting, and gives shape to the evening, especially when he shares a few ideas with me, too. Then, when we discover the rest together as the evening progresses, well. . . no disappointments. ::wink::


Tamma